It doesn't take much teaching for children to understand the "getting" part of giving and receiving. But it's never too early to begin setting a good example for your children by teaching them the joy of giving gifts.
Preschool age is a good time to start helping young children understand the idea of giving to others. You have lots of opportunities to help teach the concept of giving during the holidays. For example, children can pass on toys to youngsters who will spend the season at a hospital. Local charities typically establish special programs during the season to make it easy for families to help the less fortunate.
Child psychologists say, however, that parents should not expect young children to fully understand, much less embrace, the concept of selflessness. It's normal for young children to be selfish and enjoy receiving more than giving. Instead of lecturing your child about the joys of giving, you can help create excitement and happiness around gift giving.
Be a good role model. Make the child part of the gift-buying process by telling him or her that you really need help in buying just the right gift for a friend or family member. Then, when you wrap the gift, speculate how much the present will mean to the person who's getting it. You can even let your child help with the wrapping.